I’m ok with who I am!

I’m ok with who I am!

Repeat after me: I’m ok with who I am! 10x

My friends, it’s time! It’s time for us to stop comparing, to stop wanting something to be something else! It’s time for us to be happy with who we are now.

I was listening to Joel Osteen’s podcast, Be Comfortable With Who You Are , he talked about running your own race.. being able to celebrate others without feeling like you have to catch up… he told a story about how he focused so much on passing someone while on a run he didn’t realized he was 6 blocks away from his house! That’s what happens when you focus on other people’s race. You make it longer for you to reach your destination.

The podcast inspired me to write about being happy with who we are!

• Do you not feel happy with who you are?

• Do you find yourself always wanting to change?

• Do you find yourself always comparing yourself and your journey from others?

Well, if your answer is yes to any of the questions above, you need to stop it! Stop it already!

God created us to be exactly who we are.

Everyone was created to fulfill a purpose that is different for everyone! No one is ever more special than you to God. We are all equal in his eyes. He doesn’t care if you make the most money or if you have all the degrees in the world! He only cares about how and what you do with your life’s purpose.

The more you love yourself the more you open yourself up to God’s purpose for you!

Remind yourself everyday to Love every single bit of you, from your body to your mind and to your soul & spirit! It’s you, it’s always been you!

You don’t have to be the skinniest or the fastest, the smartest or the prettiest! What matters is what’s in your heart and that you be the best you you can ever be.

A heart filled with love will be much more beneficial for you than a heart filled with discontent.

Everyday, every minute repeat the mantra: I am ok with who I am!

Every time doubt cripples in: I am ok with who I am!

Every time you feel behind: I am ok with who I am!

Every time someone mocks you, disrespects you: I am ok with who I am!

Keep that in mind: I am ok with who I am!

What’s for you will be for you! You just have to love YOU and let the rest flow naturally!

xoxo

@piawiaventures!

I’m ok with who I am! I’m ok with who I am!
Once we accept ourselves unconditionally, no matter where we are, it will feel like home. Self Love

Reference:

Joel Osteen, Podcast “Be Comfortable With Who You Are”

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joel-osteen-podcast/id137254859?i=1000444682756

Melody Beatle, Journey to the Heart, Daily Meditation on the Path to Freeing Your Soul

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My Favorite Running Mantras – Vol. 1

Your mental state is very important when it comes to running. Besides all the physical training you put your body through you also have to train your mind to be mentally strong. So I always add mental strengthening in my training which led me to a bunch of running mantras that I read before a race. Here are some of them:

  1. Fall in love with the journey and every mile will be a magical one.
  2. If you quit now….. you’ll end up right where you first began and when you first began, you were desperate to be where you are right now. KEEP GOING!
  3. Pain is just weakness leaving the body.
  4. Run the mile you are in.
  5. You gotta make you the reason you’re doing these amazing things.
  6. Surround yourself with people that will get you there!
  7. What if I can fulfill something no one thought I could?
  8. There’s a winner inside of you.
  9. Never let your weakness destroy your greatness.
  10. Everything you need is inside you!
  11. Start telling yourself the right story: I will get through this! I will find my way!
  12. Don’t just go through it, Grow through it!
  13. Meet your goal at the finish!
  14. The bling is at the finish!
  15. It’s always too early to quit!
  16. Your only limit is YOU!
  17. When your legs can’t run anymore, run with your heart.
  18. I rather try and fail than not try at all.
  19. You’ll never be able to fix what’s behind you! You gotta run for what’s in front of you.
  20. Remember why you started <3

A little bonus here is the word “Stay”! This simple word help me through Chicago Marathon. Every time I’m about to give up or I’m starting to think negative thoughts I remember the word “stay”. It just means staying in the moment, take things one step at a time and don’t worry so much what you can and cannot do. Worrying just makes your mind more tired and reminding yourself to stay in the moment lessens your worry. 🙂

Thank you,

@piawiaventures!

 

 

 

The Amazing Mom That You Are!

Yeah! You!

You Amazing Mom

Who brought all of us into life.

You Amazing Mom

Who stood up for us when we couldn’t, YET!

You Amazing Mom

Who knew our pain when no one else did!

You Amazing Mom

Who stayed up with us to make sure we’re ok through the night

You Amazing Mom

Who gave up time for yourself to spend time with us.

You Amazing Mom

Who stands in front of us

No Rest

No Sleep

You stand here with a smile

Ready to face another battle of life with us.

We admire your unconditional love for us, your passion to keep us all alive!

To all the moms, new and old, soon-to-be’s and one day will be, you are amazing.

Thank you for all you do!

Special thanks to the moms in my life that inspires me and challenges me to be a better person.

Special thanks to my mom for showing me everyday what it means to unconditionally love someone.

Special thanks to my sister and sister-in-law for bringing so much joy in our lives.

(Belated) Happy Mother’s Day to all! (Better Late Than Never)

Thank you all for reading my thoughts!

~Always be kind and always choose love!~ 

Yours Truly Yours,

Piawia!

Aha Moment – 5.10.2019

Realizing that being mindful of the things I say is very important. 

Especially about the things that I say about myself. 

I am creating a safe place for myself [in my mind], where I can be myself always: no judgment & no shame just Trust & Love. 

This moment gave me the opportunity to change my views & to (work towards) loving myself more. An opportunity to create a world for myself where the Universe is not the only one that has my back but a world where I have my back too. 

 ~ Always Be Kind and Always Choose Love ~ 

Love Always,                                                                                                                                            Pia 

Some quotes for guidance into creating a world of love for yourself:

“Transformation starts with how we use our words – how we speak our story to others and ourselves.” – Heatherash Amara, Warrior Goddess Training 

“Be impeccable with your words.” – don Miguel, Four Agreements [faultless, flawless, guiltless]

“Any opinion not presented in Love should not be considered.” – Rachel Hollis, Girl, Stop Apologizing. [may it be from you or others]

“What comes out of your mouth comes into your life, so choose your words wisely.” – Jen Sincero, You Are A Badass Everyday

“There is no more powerful motivation than to feel we’re being used in the creation of a world where love has healed all wounds.” – Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love 

Aligning with Life…

A few years ago, I stumbled upon a page on instagram, Warrior Training Goddess. I believe the page found me or the universe was slightly directing me to this page. There was a lot of positive quotes and encouragement present in that instagram page that ultimately led me to purchasing the book, Warrior Goddess Training by Heatherash Amara. I’ve had the book for a while but I waited to read it. Now, while reading this book, I asked the question, What does it mean to be aligned with life?

 

To answer this for myself, I started with the quote below (that I gathered from the book itself):

 

“Aligning with life means committing to our intent, or goals, 100 percent as well as surrendering to the outcome, whatever it may be.”

 

In my own understanding,

 

Aligning with life means giving it your all, in whatever it may be: intent, goals, dreams. & then being able to accept whatever the outcome is, good or bad.

 

It’s not regretting the hard work you put into achieving your dreams.

 

It’s not regretting the time spent working on your goals.

 

It’s not regretting all the things you had to give up or sacrifice to focus on your dreams.

 

It’s not regretting all the struggles that you could have avoided if it wasn’t for that goal.

 

Even when the results of you giving it your all doesn’t meet your expectations.

 

Even when things don’t go as planned.

 

Even when things go wrong.

 

You accept whatever it is for what it is and live life with no regrets.

 

Aligning with life is finding ways to be happy with whatever the results are.

 

It’s finding the silver lining of things.

 

It’s finding the blessings from all of the shortcomings of life. (or not even thinking of the shortcomings)

 

It’s trusting that life is beautiful no matter what, where, who, how it may be.

 

In the book, Heatherash Amara also mentions that “Life is neither fair nor unfair. Life is a force that constantly moves and changes.” There is a struggle within myself upon reading this that I can’t quite completely comprehend. It’s as if I’ve been living life thinking I’m important that the world revolves around me but obviously it doesn’t. I believe many of us feel this way. We say things like “life is unfair” without realizing that life/world don’t single out things. It just happens that way. It just happened that you’re in this spot today. You’re in this space right now. There is no right or wrong life. Life is just that, it just is. It will keep on moving even if you stop, even when you’re gone, life will just keep on going.

 

The important thing you can do in life is to live life to the fullest. To enjoy each moment, moment by moment and to appreciate what it is that you have. It is to see the world for the beauty and magical thing that it is.

 

This kind of revelation, growth and development takes time. It is said in many books, not just this one, that it will take time and that the only thing that matters is that you keep on moving forward. One of the main things, I’ve read, heard and learned about creating a better life for yourself is that it takes time and dedication. So give yourself some time. Give yourself some credit and also give yourself a break when things are tough! Don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

 

I feel like I write these blogs to remind myself of what I’m learning each day. I’m writing and posting to give myself a break, to give myself some encouragement and to give myself something to look back to when things are tough!

 

I am a working progress and my goal is to live life to the fullest, however, it may come!

Thanks for reading my thoughts for the day!

 

Yours Truly Yours,

 

Piawia!

 

Notes:

 

Heatherash Amara. Warrior Goddess Training: Become the Woman You Are Meant To Be. 2014

How Can I Keep Writing?

{lol} This is an actual question, Because I don’t know how to start writing again.

I lost track of myself. In the beginning of the year, I set out to write something every single day and then I stopped. All of a sudden, I stop writing materials that felt good and ’til this day I don’t know what to write but I feel like I need to. I want to be able to reach people and be an inspiration but How Do I Do THAT if I don’t feel fully inspired to do so?

It’s not like my life has completely changed. It’s just that I feel as though my fear of failure to do this is making me doubt everything. Or I don’t feel as though I am inspiring or motivating to people.

And Then, 

I just watched a video about becoming an inspiration. It was a video with Eric Feng, an influencer.  He had an epiphany when one of his mentors told him that social media is not about shining the light on himself but shining the light on others. You don’t become an influencer by  just doing things you think people would like but by showing people you care! and it hit me, I have been doing this thing all wrong too.

I was worried about not becoming legit, not being real, not being liked that I forgot that the purpose of this page was to inspire others to get out there and live their lives. The purpose of this page was to inspire others to find themselves and to learn how to love themselves more deeply and more unconditionally. This page was created to teach people how to forgive themselves, believe in themselves and generally learn to be who they truly are.

I am a believer of manifesting greatness in your life by first finding your true self and you can only do that when you learn to love yourself unconditionally.

I am not in that state 100 percent and there is a chance that I will always doubt myself and there is a chance that I will forget why I created this page in the first place but I trust that I am surrounded by amazing people who will keep me on track. I trust that the Universe will always show me the way because JUST LIKE YOU, I know that I am here for a greater purpose and maybe for me, it’s writing to you, being my true self just so you can be inspired to be brave and finally be who you are. Maybe that’s what will keep me going. Maybe that’s what will keep you going.

Nevertheless, I will keep on writing.

I will keep on posting things in my life that ultimately show you how to love yourself. Maybe one day, You Will Be The One to remind ME of what this page is all about!

After all, We Are All In This Together, as per that song that my friends don’t like from our working at Kohls days! lol

Well! Thank you for reading this random thought!

Please like and subscribe! Share and Spread the Words of LOVE in your daily lives! May it be with this page or any other way! It doesn’t matter. If this post inspired you in any way, I know I’ve done something amazing today!

& If you have any tips on how to keep me going, please don’t hesitate to leave me a comment or send me an e-mail (any advice, inspirations, motivations are all welcome!).

So again, Thank You & Have a Wonderful Life Always!

Be Kind & Be Love! 

Yours Truly Yours,

Pia!

Notes:

Here is the inspiring video of Eric Feng (Shout Out to My Sister for Sending Me This Video! Thank you, Ate Etet!) 

 

& Here is the song my friends don’t like (that ultimately inspired this post) 

 

 

Picture Post: 50 days/50 Runs/a whole bunch of Flower Photos

I set a challenge for myself to run everyday from February 11 to February 28 but I ended up running until April 2, 2019, converting an 18 day challenge into a 50 day one. I felt amazingly good. I will talk about the actual experience on another blog post but I just wanted to share the beautiful flowers that I saw while I was on my run ventures.

Running for 50 days made me so much more aware of my surroundings and made me appreciative of every little details of my running paths. So here are some flower photos I took while on my 50 day running streak. These photos were all taken with my iPhone 6S. I hope you enjoy them!

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My First Solo Travel Venture: San Antonio, Texas, USA – Part 1

April 10, 2019

It’s been more than a week since my trip to San Antonio, Texas and I’m still at an awe to how much fun and how amazing it felt to do something/to experience something like that: a SOLO TRIP.

I originally planned this trip to witness the Jersey Retirement of my favorite basketball player of all time, Emanuel Ginobili, player of the beloved San Antonio Basketball Team, the Spurs.

As soon as they announced the event, I bought my game ticket and a week later, my plane ticket. It took me a while to actually book the hotel just because I got cold feet with the idea of doing or going somewhere alone but I had to, everything was already set!  

As I am on my way to the airport, I keep thinking, “I am actually doing this just to see a player retire his jersey. People are going to think I’m crazy.” But I came to the conclusion that I didn’t care, so the theme of my trip was: “I don’t care what people thought”. Everytime I got myself in a spot where I’m questioning doing something due to people’s opinions, I reminded myself that I didn’t care and it made my trip so much more enjoyable.

So, I took on the journey and went to San Antonio with an open mind.

I decided that my first stop would be the Japanese Tea Garden, right next to the zoo. I decided on taking the bus to get there. The bus stop at the airport was pretty easy to spot.  Two bus rides and I am at the garden but I realized that I was going to wait another 30 minutes for the second bus to arrive so I decided to just go for the walk. I stumbled upon Trinity University and roamed around campus for a bit then I stumbled upon the San Antonio Zoo. In the area is an open field with a little train track that actually comes from the zoo, pretty cool. The little zoo/garden are is a good running spot, I did see a couple of runners in that area too.

The Japanese Tea Garden took me by surprised. I didn’t realized how beautiful it was. I did some research and saw some photos beforehand but I did not think it was that beautiful. They have a little fall, so many flowers, plenty of fish in the ponds and some old structures around the area. There’s also some short trails that you could walk to that leads to the zoo. It was really short though and a some up hills that can be very tiring for Florida folks since we rarely have any inclines (lol I struggled a bit walking back).

After enjoying the relaxing scenery, I went and looked for some food. Thankfully, there was a BBQ place right next to the garden, Augies BBQ.  I ordered a Fried Brisket Sandwich (I think it was called Matador Sandwich). It was so yummy and all I wanted to do after eating (devouring that sandwich) was take a nap. So, I took an Uber (first time riding one alone) to my hotel, took a 3 hour nap and then went for a 2 mile walk/jog/run around the Downtown Riverwalk. It was challenging to find a route for that due to the crowd and of course not knowing exactly where I was but I made it work and ended up finding a spot in the Riverwalk that seemed to be less travelled that made me feel super adventurous (lol). I make myself sound like I don’t go out much but truthfully, I do, I just get overly excited about things (I think that makes me unique, lol).

After my run, I got ready for the game. I took the bus to go to the AT&T Center, which I loved. There is a sense of independence that I feel every time I take public transportations alone, living in Jacksonville, FL. we basically don’t really have access to public transportation. So taking the bus was a thing I am proud of. I don’t think anyone would ever understand that.  

The game was of course exhilaratingly fun. I enjoyed it very much even though I was alone. I got my “Gracias Manu” hat, my tissue (for the retirement ceremony) and a little poster thing that had Manu’s photos.

Although my seat was all the way to the top, it did not feel like I was watching ants play basketball. So my seat was high but I still felt like I was close enough to the players. I sat on the Spurs side, right in front of where Manu’s jersey was going to be hanged and retired. I also saw where Manu sat while watching the game (so close yet so far!). For the first half of the game, I was roaming around trying to take Manu photos at all the spots they had set up. All the championship trophies they won were right next to Manu’s backdrops. It was pretty cool. I was not able to take photos with all of them though but that’s ok. I was anxious to find a good souvenir and also to watch some of the game so I didn’t really feel like standing in the longer lines just to take photos with fake Manus.

The game was exciting. When I started watching it, it was the last couple of minutes of the 3rd quarter and the whole 4th quarter. It’s so exciting to be in a home game of your team. Mills scores a last minute 3 pointer that made the win for the Spurs apparent. He even said he did it for Manu, who really knows. The Spurs came a long way from where they were in the beginning of the season to where they are now. It’s kind of neat to witness their progress and actually seeing it in person. (They are going to the Playoff’s despite the odds not being in their favor in the beginning of the season, how amazing is that?)

The ceremony was to start after the game which kind of took me by surprised since the game was a late game. But it was fine, I just wanted to be there. The ceremony started 30 minutes after the game. I contemplated getting up and using the restroom, thankfully, I did! (Haha, just thought to put that out there.) The speeches were touching and I really thought I was going to cry but I didn’t. Manu is such an awesome player and he has great appreciation for his fans, colleagues and especially to his family. I admire that very much and I’m sure a lot of his fans do too.

After the game and ceremony, I set out to do another Uber venture. Share a Ride was set in Lot 5 of the Parking Lot which coming out from the doors by Row 125 will be on the far left, I mean far far left. I’ve been in that parking lot before but I still didn’t know where to go. I had to google it and follow some folks around to get to where they had pick ups set up. I think it was pretty organized but it still took my Uber awhile to get to me, maybe they could do better. I contemplated riding the bus back to my Hotel just because of how long it was taking for my Uber to reach me but who knows what was out there that late of the night, so I’m still glad I took Uber. Finally, my Uber ride got to me and I was able to get to my hotel safe and sound.

Well, that’s it for my 1st day in San Antonio. I decided to make this trip a two part blog. I was only there for two days but I have so much thoughts about my experiences that it became apparent to make it a two part blog!

I hope you enjoyed reading this blog as much as I enjoyed the actual trip and I hope this encourages you to go for one too, a SOLO TRIP!

10 Ways to Decrease Negativity To Create a More Positive Life!

How to decrease negativity in your life

I know that life doesn’t always turn out as planned and negativity is inevitable but there are some ways to decrease them in your life.  Many people wait for more positive things to come along but in order for more positivism to come into your life you must work for them. You must do some serious look into what we feed our minds and our spirits. We must CREATE a positive life and provide ourselves with a space where negativity doesn’t rule our lives.

So, here are some of my key ideas to decrease negativity to live more positively:

  1. Filter the people you surround yourself with.

Always be in a place where self love can exist for you is a reminder I tell myself and the people close to me. Self Love doesn’t always exist with the people we hang out with. Sometimes you have to avoid or decrease your time with people you’ve known for years. It’s ok, it’s ok to take care of yourself first. It’s ok to realize that some people bring more negativity in your life than positive and to do something about it: avoid, lessen the time spent, etc. Life is about growing and learning what’s best for you and going for it. If you surround yourself with people who you can’t truly be yourself with then that is not a place where self love can exist for you; make necessary changes and start enjoying life more.

  1. Limit your social media binge.

I’ve recently (was able to) limit my social media used. It’s been the most active I’ve been for a while. I finished a book, I’ve been working out everyday (run, gym & yoga) I’ve been eating healthier and been thinking more positively. Social Media is like an addiction. You get succumbed to scrolling and scrolling without realizing that you’ve already spent hours and hours on it. It is the easiest past time and the most unproductive feeling you’ll ever get. So, if you can, limit your time on it. You can do so by first deciding that this is something you’d like to do & then finding ways to do so. For example, you can put a time limit to your social media use, you can just check it when you’re close to a computer (vs on your phone), you can check your social media every other day, etc. There are many ways to do this but you have to decide and then be firm and consistent with your decision.

  1. Avoid negative media: tv shows, radio stations, music etc.

Sometimes I find myself listening to a radio station where the DJ is pressuring the other DJ to do something she/he doesn’t want to do or like shows that make you sad or anxious, avoid that. Of course, everything is preference but if you find yourself sad and anxious all the time, check what you’ve been watching and listening to, it really makes a difference in your mood,  your day and just your life in general.

  1. Meditate or Pray.

Meditating and praying are often perceived as being religious, being too spiritual, etc and many people nowadays are usually afraid to be labeled as such. But, for me, meditating and praying can be however and whatever you’d like it to be; it could be religious or not; it could be spiritual or not. It’s up to you and no one else should be able to tell you what it is but yourself.

  1. Read as many books as you can.

I feel that reading changed my life so much.  With reading, I was able to learn so much more about myself. I started learning why I feel certain things and really got myself out of myself. I have come a long way but I’m sure there are still more to tackle and learn. Reading gives you the opportunity to explore parts of yourself, parts of the world and create imagination beyond the things you already know.

  1. Be thankful & proud of your progress no matter how small or big it may seem.

I cannot emphasize this enough (to myself, lol). Sometimes, you forget to be kind to yourself. One of the things I always hear from running coaches on my Nike app is being gentle to yourself. Be a kind coach, like how you would coach and be there for your friends, that’s how you should be to yourself first and foremost! So yes, celebrate every step and decrease (or if possible, eliminate) negative self talk!

  1. Find a hobby; something you can focus yourself with.

I find that people with a hobby or something to focus their minds to are very happy people. Giving yourself something to look forward to in each and everyday. For example, mine is running, I find myself looking for a run whenever things are tough vs. just sitting around and waiting for the stress to pass by. You can read a book, go for a walk etc. There are many hobbies out there that can help keep your mind at bay. You just have to find what is the right one for you.

  1. Learn to be alone and love your own company.

This one is one of the most liberating experience for me, enjoying my own company. I used to have FOMO all the time and it made it harder for me to create a positive space for myself. Realizing this, I set out a goal to one day be comfortable being alone and then boom: I was watching movies alone, dining alone and enjoying my very own company. I no longer depended on people to do things with me. In turn, I felt that I became more suitable to be around people. I also set higher standards for the energy that is around me. I am more open and confident about myself because I know that I can be happy just being by myself and my enjoyment no longer depended on whether or not I have company but depended on how I feel inside.

  1. Remind yourself that the things people do and say that hurts you are not a reflection of who you are but a reflection of how they feel about themselves & vice versa.

If you feel negatively towards others, there might be a lingering emotions or pains that you need to look into and work thru! This one is still very hard for me sometimes. It’s easier to blame that there is something wrong with other people, to not look within but it is a must. Looking within (no matter how hard it may be) gives you an opportunity to heal and ultimately living a more positive life! No more victim mode and more working on myself mode!

  1. Last but the not least, create and repeat POSITIVE “I AM” affirmations.

I wanted to include “I AM” affirmations because I am learning that whatever comes out of your mouth is what who you become! As I said before, NO MORE NEGATIVE SELF TALK, in exchange, you may start with POSITIVE SELF TALK instead! Start your day by saying positive things about yourself: I AM LOVE, I AM WORTHY, I AM STRENGTH, etc. What you say about yourself is important and it should always be filled with love towards yourself because self love ultimately leads to a more positive life!

Continue reading 10 Ways to Decrease Negativity To Create a More Positive Life!

How to be more consistent with yourself….

March 11, 2019: Today I felt refreshed, oh what a wonderful feeling.

I haven’t been myself lately and it completely took me off guard. I was super euphoric at some point and then bam I was kind of sad.

I want to study mental health more. I want to find out different ways to manage these kind of setbacks.

One of the things I keep hearing from my S.O., people I follow on IG, on YouTube and from people I admire and look up to is the word CONSISTENCY.

Oh you want to start a blog? a vlog? A business? You want to run faster and longer? The answer is consistency.

Being consistent just means showing up, doing what you said you’re going to do even on times you don’t feel like doing it. It’s fighting the curse of excuses and consistently winning over them.

In the beginning of this year, I set out to write something everyday, as much as I can. In the month of January, I was able to fulfill this goal. I wrote every night and I was able to post blogs and share them with my friends and my family. But then it got real. It got to the point where the thoughts I was writing were thoughts I did not feel comfortable enough to share, so I stopped. I was getting the gizz of it all. People were starting to follow me and at some point my page was visited more than 100 times. Why did I stop? I was so courageous and brave, I bought my domain and made my page official but then I stopped? Again, why did I stop? In the month of February, I barely wrote. I posted 2 entries on my page and didn’t share it with friends and family like I did on my other posts.

What stopped me? And what stops a lot of people from fulfilling their goals, their dreams and ultimately living the life they desire?

FEAR! For this question, Fear is the answer. A lot of the excuses that we make up are created to justify our fears. Fear of failing, fear of being ridiculed or not taken seriously, fear of judgment and many other forms of fear. Yes, fear comes in many forms and many times those fears create excuses that stop people from being consistent and firm with their plans and their ideas that ultimately prevents their consistency, leaving them stuck and afraid to move forward.

I set out to be braver this year round and my fear still got to me even with superb support system, being it my family, friends and most especially my S.O. I’ve never felt so supported and yet I still let fear hinder my consistency and most specially my growth.

Fear is truly one of the greatest enemy of consistency.

So how do you fight your fears to become more consistent with your words and your goals?

I have some ideas! I am willing to share them. They have been working for me for the past several weeks and I hope these ideas and concepts will help you be more consistent with achieving your goals:

  1. Knowing that fear is inevitable. With this in mind, I set myself up to success when I accept that fear will be present. I wonder and ponder on what might I be fearing to make up the excuses? My S.O. tells me, “don’t say you know when you really don’t.” You really have to dig deep sometimes. One of the things that helped me thru figuring out what I’m fearing is writing. I write the question, “why am I afraid of ________?” & then answer it. There are times where I would end up writing, “I don’t really fear this” at the end of my writing that leads me to realizing that the fear I have is not true and continue on to do what I set myself out to do.
  2. Lessening the pressure you put on yourself. I created a challenge to run 2 miles a day from February 11th to February 28th. I was fearful I would fail but one of the things that kept me going was reminding myself to not put so much pressure on myself. When I set up my run for the day, I quietly remind myself that “there’s no pressure & to do what I can.” Keeping that in mind put so much ease on my runs making my runs more enjoyable. I decided to share this journey on social media that ultimately led to Friends joining me on the challenge and they asked me what the rules were and I said, “No rules, No pressure.” I’ve been running for 32 days, as of March 14, 2019, way pass the time frame I had originally set out to do. I feel good and I don’t feel drained. My friends are super grateful and are happy they started the challenge too. If I had let fear set in and decided to not share my challenge, I probably wouldn’t have enjoyed it much and my friends wouldn’t have joined me. I set aside my fear of being ridiculed and my fear of failure. Setting them aside gave me the opportunity to share the joy of accomplishments with my friends and inspire people to be more active too. Not having the pressure I put on myself made myself more accountable and motivated.
  3. Be more organized. Try your best to be more organized, with your thoughts, your plans and whatever else is in your life. One night, I decided to create an online calendar, as my S.O. suggested {I talk to him a lot}. At first, I was stubborn and thought “No way!” but as soon as I started that calendar, a whole lot of thoughts and worries went out the window. I guess you carry these things on your mind too, the plans, the events, the commitments and many more. As I released these things to put on my calendar, my mind felt at ease, I don’t have to messed up things & I don’t have to miss any events. I can confidently plan, confidently think of other things, confidently focus on other things knowing that I am organized with my days. I also created tasked that I have been checking off each day that makes me feel accomplished vs it just being another day. Organizing can come in many forms too. The key idea of organizing is to have a clear path where your thoughts are not scattered and ultimately alleviate some of your fears of messing up or missing things, events or commitments.
  4. Trust yourself more. I remind myself this all the time. Part of my anxiety battles were brought about because of my self mistrust. For a while, I didn’t trust myself (at all). I’ve come a long way and realizing that Loving Yourself is Trusting Yourself changed my life {for not only the better but for the best}. Even if you fail, even if you make a mistake, even if people are against it, you have to trust that you did the best you could with whatever resources were presented and were available to you. We are all human, we are wired to fail & wired to overcome them too but when we let our fears fight our battles we really don’t get too far. Being brave and fearless can only happen if you give yourself the trust you deserve! Trust that your talented, Trust that you have something important and meaningful to say. Trust that you can inspire. Trust that you are a wonderful human being. Trust that you can overcome all your fears and Trust that you can be consistent with your plans. Just trust and believe in yourself.
  5. “Replace can’t with maybe.” by Alexi Pappas. There’s no other way to word this. I hear and read a lot about the idea that what you say and what you believe to be is actually what happens and what becomes of you. So every time I say things like “I’m not fast”, “I’m not a writer”, or “I can’t do this”, I replace them with more positive thoughts (when I catch it). I am more aware of the thoughts and words I say about myself. I remind myself of words like “not yet”, inspired by Charlie Rocket, to remind myself that there’s always opportunities for growth and even though it feels and seem unattainable, if you ignore those fears, there’s always a chance: a chance to grow, a chance to be faster, a chance to be better, a chance to be who you want yourself to be. So be inspired, follow people who started from where you think you are and witness them face their fears and fulfill the things you dream of to remind yourself that there is always a chance to “replace can’t with maybe.
  6. Another one that I [try to] do and would like to share is to celebrate every accomplishments. It doesn’t matter how small they are, those accomplishments are meant to be celebrated and be proud of. Small things could lead to big things. The little more that you do the closer you get to your goals, the BIG Things. I feel that by celebrating every accomplishments makes being consistent more enjoyable and less pressured. You finished a book, celebrate! You read 3 pages of a book, celebrate! Be grateful for yourself, for trying and for facing your fears! Celebrate yourself for getting up every morning and be grateful for being able to and being given the opportunity just to do something, anything. Celebrate the idea that you are capable and that you have all the opportunities in the world to do what you love you just have to face your fears!

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